There is this mentality in my society that I think is damaging. While others praise people’s successes and encourage them to reward and feel good about themselves, others shame these people. For them, it seems like confidence is synonymous with arrogance. When they noticed that someone gained confidence, no matter how tiny or average the success, they seem to undermine them. When someone rewarded themself with luxury after hard work and accomplishment, – be it food, material things, spa, or travel – some see it as bragging. There is no wonder how most of these critics aren’t very successful in life.
Let’s go to the roots of this mentality – the Judeo-Christian virtue of humility. Our society was influenced by this when Spaniards colonized the country in the 1500s. History tells us how religion is a powerful tool to instill fear in people, and how, instilling fear paves the way for social control. So, to maintain the upper-hand, they introduced different virtues, one of them being humility. Don’t get me wrong. Humility, when practiced the right way, may build good relationships with our community and peace. However, toxic humility may undermine a person’s capability to be their best.
Shaming people for gaining confidence or enjoying the fruits of their labor is tantamount to undermining their successes. If you’re someone who uses social engineering to manipulate people into failure, I cannot do anything about it. Despite being a secular humanist, I hope karma will teach you a lesson. In case this is a result of envy or jealousy, I hope you will realize that you can use people’s success as an inspiration. Celebrating people’s success, no matter how small or average, leads us to our success, too. There are lots of lessons that we can learn from successful people. Celebrating their victory may make them more willing to help us succeed.
In case they’re jerks, well, girl… do what you have to do. 🙃